The Godly Roles of Parents & Children

In today’s society the roles of parents and children in the family institution are forgotten or none existent in the mainstream. Because of divorce; single family homes, promiscuous behavior, and premarital sex; kids are being raise by one half of the unit God put together to raise them. This causes a lot of things, especially in single mothering households where there is an absence of a dad.

So I aim to investigate the roles of parents and the roles of children as God wants us to behave and conduct with the closes people to us…our families.

Let us began this lesson in Genesis 1 v26-27

26And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

27So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

Now God man made in His own image and likeness and created them both male and female…both of them. And you can see how this took place in Genesis 2 v23-25 where Adam said this was bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh and a man would leave his own mother and father to cleave to his wife. That’s a big move to make. To leave your own parents to cleave to a stranger; it must be serious. And they became ONE FLESH.

To think about it; psychopaths argue with themselves, fight with themselves, etc, so to be arguing and fighting with your spouse; that is dysfunction. Let’s move on…

Matthew 19 v3-9

3The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

4And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

6Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Now the Pharisees came to tempt Jesus about the marriage thing; and JESUS referred to the scriptures, the exact scriptures that we just read in Genesis (the same ones our President George W Bush said he doesn’t necessarily believe all of it is true; except that God sent His Son; well look at what the Son quoted). And what God put together Jesus said let no man put asunder.

7They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

8He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

And Moses, Jesus explains why Moses allowed men to divorce their wives; but Jesus clearly let’s us know it was never so from the beginning. In other words; that was never allowed or suppose to happen from the beginning.

So how do we deal with out spouses? Let’s see…

Ephesians 5 v22-25

22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Wives submit yourselves to your own husbands as you would to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife; just like Jesus Christ is the head of the church. Be subject to your husbands, in everything. Now we have to be wise; if your husband is not all that smart you have to be smart; but you can’t be challenging him in every thing.

And husbands are supposed to love their wives; to the point that Jesus loved the church, even gave His life for it. Men will you do that for your wife? Will you take care of them as Jesus takes care of the church? That’s something you have to ask yourself.

A good wife comes from the Lord and if you got a good wife; the Lord showed you favor and it’s a good thing to obtain a wife, according to God; (I know some men still haven’t figure out why yet – I don’t have that problem) (Proverbs 18 v22); and a crowd to her husband (Proverbs 12 v4).

1 Peter 3 v1-2

1Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

2While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

Peter seconds what Paul wrote; about wives being in subjection to their own husbands. It doesn’t mean women are lesser; it’s just the way the Lord has set it up. Men should not abuse this title especially since you don’t know where you will end up tomorrow, meaning in JesusKingdom.

7Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Husbands dwell with your wife according to knowledge. Don’t use emotion or a false sense of authority; but with knowledge, giving honor to the wife as the weaker vessel. Men are supposed to be in control of the situation with their wives and kids.

And you want to be wise so that your prayers are not hindered. And it’s true; God will not hear a prayer from a man who doesn’t do well by his wife. You can read about why Peter said this by reading Malachi 2 v13-16 let’s go look at it…

13And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.

Why the Lord hasn’t regarded your offering or received good at your hand?

14Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.

Isn’t this the wife of your covenant; and the Lord sits and watches your behavior towards this woman.

15And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

The Lord makes it known that He made them One as we read in the Genesis; and He had the ability to make two different beings; but He had a purpose. So men are supposed to take care of the family. Men that have kids and they run away from their responsibilities; they are worse than non-believers (1 Timothy 5 v1, 8).

Let’s take a look at children and what is expected from God of them; and what how parents are suppose to treat their children.

Ephesians 6 v1-4

1Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.  2Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;  3That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

Children obey your parents. And we know that is for what’s righteous. Parents aren’t supposed to tell children to walk through the fire; or hurt themselves; but if a parent says you can’t go to the dance; you should not be at the dance.

4And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

At the same token, parents are not supposed to provoke their children but are suppose to nurture their children and warn them of the Lord. If you don’t obey your parents’ children; the Lord will put out your lamp (Proverbs 20 v20). Moses told the same thing in Exodus 21

15And he that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall be surely put to death.

17And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.

Children are born learning so they will make some folly and bad moves; as wise loving parents, you are to correct them responsibly and out of knowledge.

Proverbs 22 v6, 15

6Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

15Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Tell a child what he should do; and when he is old; he or she will not depart from it. Sure they’ll have some mishaps; but they will remember the foundation you instill. Foolishness is in the mine of the child; but a little rod of correction, i.e. whooping will drive it out.

I see families want to not give the child a whooping or physical correction; but to withhold correction is to show hatred for your child (Proverbs 13 v24). If you don’t correct them; the bad kids will or the department of corrections…it’s your choice!

Proverbs 23 v13-14

13Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.

14Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Remember you are not beating your child to kill them; you should not correct while your emotions are high; you are spanking, whooping, or beating them to correct that bad behavior. You can do the take away move; but humans learn best by having something go across their head.

A beating won’t kill them; but it will deliver their soul from hell; if you do it out of love. Look at the beating God gave His own children Israel; sent into captivity for not obeying Him; not because He wants that; but because it is the only way to correct them. Same thing with the great tribulation; it is to get everyone’s attention and to beat them up so they can correct their behavior.

It should be done out of love; I heard that a lot growing up, “I’m doing this because I love you.”

This is the Godly role of parents and children. It is to love each other. If you cannot love your wife; your husband, your kids; how can you realistically love God? If you cannot obey your parents, even into their old age; how can you realistically say you will obey God? If you cannot listen to the Lord and obey His every command; how can you expect that from your own kids to obey you?

When you are dealing with your spouse, wives treat the husband as if they are your head as Christ is the head of the church. We treat Jesus with fear, honor, and respect. Husbands treat your wives with the love Jesus treats the church. Parents bring up children in the way the Lord brings up us in His word. Even when we do bad; the Lord still sends food; shines the sun, and sends rain to us. So even when your children make mistakes you are to have mercy.

Children; listen and obey your parents for it is good. My daddy and mommy told me growing up that they were my gods on earth. That God has put them in His place while we’re on the earth. I believed that and still do; children should treat their parents as if they are treating God. That’s with honor children. I hope this edifies everyone; and I pray God Speed that you are increased in Jesus Name.

Amen

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